My ex is a nutjob. She’s super possessive and sends me email every single day, even though we broke up months ago. How can I just quietly filter all her email to spam in Gmail?
Sorry to hear that your breakup wasn’t smooth, at least in your ex’s eyes. With the rise of digital media and social networks, staying connected even when the other party wishes otherwise is really incredibly easy. From Facebook to Twitter, SnapChat to Gmail, it’s so much easier to connect than disconnect. Most all of these services have slowly gotten the message, however, and just about all now have some variety of tools or features to help you out.
Google offers a variety of different ways you can try to block, ignore or mute your nutjob ex, ranging from complicated to really easy. You could, for example, set up an email filter that automatically trashes all of her email messages [see: How to set up a Gmail filter] or that even auto-responds with a canned message like “please stop emailing me.” or even a mock bounce message.
But let’s keep it easy. Gmail also has a “block sender” feature that automatically routes all email from that particular person direction into the Spam folder. Let’s have a look…
First off, here’s my designated blockee:
This is just a demo, of course: Chris is a great source of information that I rely on in real life. But as a guinea pig, he’s perfect too 🙂
In any case, imagine this is an email from someone you want to block. Don’t get anxious, don’t get mad, just click on the three dots icon on the right edge. It pops up a menu:
As you can see, one of the entries is Block “Chris Pfaff”. That’s the one to choose, so select it and a window will pop up telling you what’s about to happen:
As detailed, Gmail will forevermore route all email from Chris directly into the spam folder (well, “mark it” as spam, but it’s essentially the same thing in usage).
Let’s do it! Click on “Block” to proceed.
That’s it. Chris – or whomever you selected – is blocked. They have no idea it’s happened, they don’t get any special notification that they’re now just considered spam, it’s all on your end and invisible to them.
If you ever want to reverse the process, perhaps because your ex has calmed down and wants to just be friends, then go to Settings and look along the top:
The choice you want to make is “Filters and Blocked Addresses“. Easy enough, once you know where to look. Choose that and scroll down to the very bottom of that page to find:
There’s Chris again. I feel a bit guilty, actually, so I’m going to unblock him by clicking on the ingeniously labeled “unblock” link. That brings up yet another window:
And that’s it. All good, Mr. Pfaff, nothing to worry about.
Good luck with your ex!
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